ch. 1. Finding your voice
ch. 2. Voice lessons from my father
ch. 3. Our first family : where we learned (not) to speak
ch. 4. Should you share vulnerability
ch. 5. In praise of pretending
ch. 6. Putting our parents on the hot seat
ch. 7. Love can make you stupid
ch. 8. Marriage : where's your bottom line
ch. 9. "I can't live with this" : voicing the ultimate in marriage
ch. 10. Warming things up
ch. 11. Silent men/angry women
ch. 12. Criticism is hard to take
ch. 13. An apology? : don't hold your breath
ch. 14. complaining and negativity : when you can't listen another minute
ch. 15. The sounds silence : finding a voice when you're rejected and cut off
Epilogue : to thine own self be true.
